A father's advice to his son to be married
The man who gives thanks to the words and experiences of our Prophet (PBUH) gives a few remarks before he gets married to his son. Here is a bunch of them:
Son! Now I will give you some advice based on the experiences of my 30-year marriage. As you have spent a happy life in this world that has been warned by this advice, in the Hereafter you will attain eternal happiness insha'Allah.
* You will come out of a place where you are born and grew up, a place where you live, a strange place, you will live on a pillow that you will live with a person you do not know about.
* Be a friend to him, that you be dear.
* You become a house stake, and it becomes a stake.
* You become servant to him, and he becomes your concubine.
* Do not bother him that he is a source of peace.
* Stay away from him so that he is close to you!
* Remember that the file is created from ribs (metaphor), do not go straight!
* Be an eye, be an ear, be a strength, be a force, protect it, do not take refuge in someone else!
* Be busy with things outside, with your partner inside, with your children!
Be generous about food and drink; "Do not judge, teach economics," but never complain, "He spends a lot, he's wasting!"
* Prefer the right of your wife to your own right!
* Watch your wife's relative!
* Never be sick at home, do not be afraid to say that you love him often!
* Take note of what your wife wants you to do! Try not to turn back your legitimate wishes. If they do not have enough strength, attach a certain reinforcement. Fulfill your promise when it comes to history.
* The house is owned and maintained by him, do not interfere with everything!
* The biggest and most effective teacher of your children is their mother.
* Consult with your wife often.
* Do what you do, do not do it! Every goodness of yours will return to you as a hundred!
* Avoid raining orders. Advise him with goodness and soft words.
* Do not tell the mistakes of your ladies beside your children and others. When you're alone, say softly!
* Do not share your family secrets with anyone.
* Stay away from bad habits and lie! These are the ones who wash the nest inside.
* If you endure him, he will bear you. Though he is not worthy, think that God tested you with him. Try to be a good companion in every way!
* Take some presents on the important day and especially if it is small and simple on holidays!
* Remember, if you have mercy on your husband, you will have mercy on you.
Be always in the know. Do your worship. Try to make your prayers in time and if possible with the community!
* Be pleased with Allah, that Allah be pleased with you! Your provident, blessing is thankfulness, consent and patience.
* Stretch that word over your head: "Wherever you are, do not resist Allah; Do a favor from behind your evil which you do, that destroy it. Treat people according to the right of good morals. "(Tirmizi, Birr, 55.)
The man who gives thanks to the words and experiences of our Prophet (PBUH) gives a few remarks before he gets married to his son. Here is a bunch of them:
Son! Now I will give you some advice based on the experiences of my 30-year marriage. As you have spent a happy life in this world that has been warned by this advice, in the Hereafter you will attain eternal happiness insha'Allah.
* You will come out of a place where you are born and grew up, a place where you live, a strange place, you will live on a pillow that you will live with a person you do not know about.
* Be a friend to him, that you be dear.
* You become a house stake, and it becomes a stake.
* You become servant to him, and he becomes your concubine.
* Do not bother him that he is a source of peace.
* Stay away from him so that he is close to you!
* Remember that the file is created from ribs (metaphor), do not go straight!
* Be an eye, be an ear, be a strength, be a force, protect it, do not take refuge in someone else!
* Be busy with things outside, with your partner inside, with your children!
Be generous about food and drink; "Do not judge, teach economics," but never complain, "He spends a lot, he's wasting!"
* Prefer the right of your wife to your own right!
* Watch your wife's relative!
* Never be sick at home, do not be afraid to say that you love him often!
* Take note of what your wife wants you to do! Try not to turn back your legitimate wishes. If they do not have enough strength, attach a certain reinforcement. Fulfill your promise when it comes to history.
* The house is owned and maintained by him, do not interfere with everything!
* The biggest and most effective teacher of your children is their mother.
* Consult with your wife often.
* Do what you do, do not do it! Every goodness of yours will return to you as a hundred!
* Avoid raining orders. Advise him with goodness and soft words.
* Do not tell the mistakes of your ladies beside your children and others. When you're alone, say softly!
* Do not share your family secrets with anyone.
* Stay away from bad habits and lie! These are the ones who wash the nest inside.
* If you endure him, he will bear you. Though he is not worthy, think that God tested you with him. Try to be a good companion in every way!
* Take some presents on the important day and especially if it is small and simple on holidays!
* Remember, if you have mercy on your husband, you will have mercy on you.
Be always in the know. Do your worship. Try to make your prayers in time and if possible with the community!
* Be pleased with Allah, that Allah be pleased with you! Your provident, blessing is thankfulness, consent and patience.
* Stretch that word over your head: "Wherever you are, do not resist Allah; Do a favor from behind your evil which you do, that destroy it. Treat people according to the right of good morals. "(Tirmizi, Birr, 55.)
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